Chapter 2

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Life in the NICU doesn’t follow the ordinary rules of time. Days are measured in ounces gained, breaths taken, alarms silenced, and tiny improvements that would mean almost nothing outside the hospital. An entire afternoon can pass while you wait for a nurse to tell you whether your baby tolerated another feeding.

During Nora’s first week, I barely slept. I pumped breast milk every three hours, washed bottles and equipment until my hands became rough, and kept a notebook filled with questions for the doctors. When I wasn’t speaking to the medical team, I sat beside her incubator reading from a worn copy of The Velveteen Rabbit.

It was the only children’s book I’d managed to grab before leaving home.

I read it over and over, hoping the sound of my voice would become familiar to her.

Daniel visited every morning before work and returned every evening after his last patient. He wanted to take more time off, but we knew there might be weeks of hospital care ahead, and our savings had already taken a beating from years of fertility treatments.

He never complained.

Sometimes, he simply sat beside me, holding my hand while we watched our daughter sleep.

The nurses gradually taught us how to participate in her care. I learned to change a diaper around wires and tubing, take her temperature, and recognize the signs that she needed a rest. Eventually, when her condition allowed it, Renee helped me hold Nora against my chest for skin-to-skin contact.

I cried so hard that the nurse brought me tissues.

“She’s so warm,” I whispered.

Renee smiled. “She knows you’re here.”

That moment kept me going through the harder days.

My daughter smelled faintly of baby soap and hospital linen. Her head fit beneath my chin, and her tiny breathing movements were the most beautiful thing I’d ever felt.

I wanted to tell everyone.

Instead, I sent another message to the family group chat.

“Nora got to spend twenty minutes in my arms today. Her doctors are pleased with her progress. We’re grateful for every little victory.”

Claire reacted with a heart.

Dorothy said nothing.

My father remained silent.

I knew the hospital had visitation requirements, and not everyone could enter the NICU whenever they wished. But nobody had even asked when they might visit or whether Daniel and I needed something as simple as dinner.

After ten days, I called my father directly. The call went to voicemail, and I left a message saying that Nora was holding steady and that I’d love to hear his voice.

He never called back.

At the end of the second week, Uncle Gerald sent me a brief text.

“Thinking about you, sweetheart. Let me know if you need anything.”

I stared at those words for several minutes before replying.

“Actually, I need company. I’m at the hospital almost every day, and it’s getting lonely. Could you come sit with me sometime?”

There was no response.

That hurt more than I expected because Uncle Gerald had always been different.

He was my mother’s younger brother, a retired high school history teacher who lived in Oak Park. After both of my miscarriages, he’d appeared at our apartment with homemade soup, fresh bread, and an old-fashioned sympathy card.

He wasn’t a man who expressed himself easily, but he’d sit beside me without trying to explain away my grief.

When I remembered those visits, I couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t come now.

I began questioning whether I was asking too much of everyone.

Maybe the hospital frightened them. Perhaps they were waiting until Nora was stronger. Maybe my need for support made them uncomfortable, just as Dorothy had always claimed.

By the fourth week, I stopped sending frequent updates.

The silence was exhausting.

But something unexpected happened during those lonely afternoons.

I met other mothers.

There was Hannah, whose premature twins had been born at twenty-nine weeks. Teresa, a grandmother raising her daughter’s baby while her daughter recovered from severe complications. And Melissa, whose little boy had undergone surgery within days of birth.

We met in the family lounge, near the vending machines, or in the lactation room where tired women sat beneath fluorescent lights doing one more necessary task.

We didn’t have to explain much to one another.

When Nora gained two ounces, Hannah celebrated as though she’d won a prize. When Melissa’s baby had a difficult night, I brought her coffee and sat beside her until she felt ready to talk.

One afternoon, Teresa placed a warm container of chicken soup in front of me.

“You look like you haven’t eaten since Tuesday,” she said.

I laughed weakly. “What day is it?”

“Friday, honey.”

We both laughed, and then, without warning, I started crying.

Teresa pulled her chair closer.

“Go ahead,” she said. “You don’t have to be brave every minute.”

Those words nearly broke me.

I’d spent my whole life being told to compose myself, to stay positive, to avoid making people uncomfortable with my emotions. But this woman, who had known me for less than three weeks, understood something my family never had.

Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do is let somebody hurt without telling them to stop.

By the sixth week, Nora had made encouraging progress. She was gaining weight and needed less breathing support, although she still had to develop the strength and coordination to feed safely and consistently. We were beginning to imagine taking her home, but her doctors cautioned us that she still had milestones to reach.

One Thursday afternoon, I went to the cafeteria to buy a sandwich.

I’d just sat down when my phone began vibrating.

The caller was my older brother, Owen.

He was thirty-six and worked as an investigative reporter for a magazine in Minneapolis. We loved each other, but his assignments frequently took him out of town, and we sometimes went weeks without speaking.

I missed the call while digging through my bag.

Then he called again.

And again.

By the time I retrieved the phone, I had twenty-nine missed calls.

My stomach tightened.

I called him immediately.

“Isabelle?”

His voice sounded strained.

“Owen, what’s wrong?”

“It’s Uncle Gerald. He had a heart attack this morning. He’s at Rush University Medical Center.”

I stood so quickly my chair scraped the cafeteria floor.

“Oh, God. Is he alive?”

“Yes, but it’s serious. They’re treating him, and we don’t know how things will turn out yet.”

I pressed my free hand against my forehead.

“Is Dad there?”

“Everybody’s here. Dad, Anne, Claire, Dorothy. I’m here, too. I drove down as soon as I heard.”

I looked at the untouched sandwich on my tray.

“Tell me what hospital floor he’s on. I’ll see whether Daniel can come stay with Nora so I can visit.”

Owen hesitated.

“Isabelle, there’s something else.”

“What?”

“Dad is asking why you haven’t called him in weeks. He’s upset. He says you’ve been shutting everybody out.”

For a moment, I thought I’d misunderstood.

“Shutting everybody out?”

“That’s what he said.”

I gripped the edge of the table.

“Owen, I’ve been sitting beside my daughter in the NICU for six weeks. Six weeks. Nobody has come to see her. Dad hasn’t returned my calls, and Dorothy responded to my announcement with a picture from a charity gala.”

There was silence.

Then Owen said, “What are you talking about?”

I felt the beginning of an awful suspicion.

“I told everyone when Nora was born. I gave updates. I’ve asked for company. Nobody answered.”

Owen breathed out slowly.

“Isabelle, Dorothy told us you didn’t want visitors.”

The cafeteria seemed to grow strangely quiet.

“What?”

“She said you were having a hard time emotionally and the doctors wanted people to leave you alone. She told Dad she was coordinating support for you.”

I lowered myself into the chair.

“She said what?”

“She claimed she’d spoken with the hospital team. She said the family needed to respect your privacy until you were stable.”

I looked down at my phone, at the unanswered messages I’d sent over six weeks.

“Owen,” I whispered, “that woman hasn’t even called me.”

He didn’t speak.

“She hasn’t spoken to my doctors. She hasn’t arranged anything. I’ve been begging people to come.”

Owen swore softly, something he almost never did.

Then he said, “I’m coming to see you tomorrow morning. And Isabelle, I think there’s more you need to know.”

The following morning, he arrived just after seven.

I was waiting near the NICU entrance when he stepped off the elevator, looking tired and older than when I’d last seen him. Without saying anything, he wrapped both arms around me.

I buried my face in his coat and cried.

“I’m sorry,” he whispered. “I should have called you myself.”

When I could finally speak, I led him inside.

He washed his hands thoroughly, followed the nurse’s instructions, and approached Nora’s incubator with a mixture of tenderness and fear.

For several moments, he said nothing.

Then he leaned closer.

“Hello, little lady,” he whispered. “I’m your Uncle Owen.”

Nora stirred slightly.

He smiled through tears.

“She looks like Mom.”

I swallowed hard.

“Everybody keeps saying she looks like Daniel.”

“Not around the eyes,” he said. “Those are Mom’s eyes.”

We sat in the family consultation room afterward.

Owen took a notebook from his jacket, though he didn’t open it.

“I talked to Dad last night,” he said. “I asked him exactly what Dorothy told him.”

I waited.

“Three days after Nora was born, she called him and said you’d suffered an emotional breakdown. She brought up your miscarriages and claimed the doctors were concerned about how you were handling everything.”

I felt cold.

“She used my miscarriages?”

Owen nodded reluctantly.

“She said you’d always been emotionally vulnerable and that too much family attention could make things worse. According to her, the hospital recommended limiting contact.”

I stared at him.

“That’s a lie.”

“I know.”

“Nobody from the hospital spoke to her. She doesn’t even have permission to receive Nora’s medical information.”

“There’s more,” he said.

I braced myself.

“She told Dad she’d arranged food deliveries and household help. She told Claire not to call because you’d become upset whenever anyone asked about Nora’s condition.”

My breath caught.

“Claire believed her?”

“Apparently.”

“Why wouldn’t she ask me?”

Owen looked down.

“Because we’ve spent our whole lives letting Dorothy speak for everybody.”

There it was.

The truth I’d spent years avoiding.

Dorothy hadn’t simply failed to help us. She had taken control of our crisis, invented a story that made her appear responsible and compassionate, and used that story to keep everyone away.

My grief had become something she could manage from a distance.

My daughter had become an inconvenience to the family narrative.

I thought of Dorothy standing beneath that charitable banner, receiving applause for helping vulnerable children while my own baby fought for strength just a few miles away.

Suddenly, I knew what I needed to do.

“Owen, I want everybody to hear the truth.”

He nodded.

“All right.”

“Not through Dorothy. Not through another family message. I want them to see Nora. I want them to see where I’ve been.”

He watched me carefully.

“Do you want me to arrange a video call?”